My Ex Is Already Dating Someone ElseThis can happen because the relationship with her man became boring or stale e. It can also happen if her guy took her for granted in the relationship e. So, to make herself feel better, she might get on Tinder and instantly connect with hundreds of men who will make her feel like an attractive, desirable woman once again. In fact, you can easily change how she feels by making some adjustments to the way you interact with her from this point onwards. When you start giving your ex the attraction experience she always wanted e. She might openly admit it to you and say that she feels differently now and is interested in giving the relationship another chance. Alternatively, she might keep her guard up a little, just to spend a bit more time with you before she can believe in the changes and fully open up to you again.
He was devastated when we broke up and said that in a year and a half when we could be together again we could be perfect again. Start by building up a connection again and breaking the ice with light hearted topics. Avoid talking about getting back together for now, since he has to be the one to feel that way and want to voluntarily end things with his girlfriend to be with you. My ex and i have been apart for two years.
He recently apologized for the break up and we are now on talking terms. He hasn't really asked that we begin a new relationship but he uses words of endearments whenever we are texting.
He says he's still single but has a daughter with another lady. I still love him and want us to give it another try. I'd love to know your advice. Continue with the conversation and since he seems to be the one reaching out, allow him to take charge and see where its headed.
You can decide again when you know more about his intentions. Went through the no contact, it was hell. Met up with her at a local bar on the weekend, and everything went smooth, she was really into me still.
I laid it all out on the line, Opened up completely. Put myeslf out there. Through the "Relationship with me" card out. She considered it, with a few buts But then I pushed. She finally lost it, brought up the reason for the breakup, in a very harsh way, and I called her on it. She broke got angry, referred to the reason for breakup again. She's determined now to not change her mind about getting back together, and is firm in her place!
Back down from pressuring her to get back together with you. The fact that she considered it was a good thing but the pushing probably threw her consideration out the window. You're going to have to work at her pace if you want to win her back and keep in mind that it's not something that logic can win.
Right now, your chances are slim but if you give her some space before easing back into talking to her, with no pressure or pushiness to make any decision, you might still have a chance to win her over. My ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 8 months ago. The break was kind of sudden. We argued a lot and one day he just turned cold on me.
He blame the whole break up on me but personal it was both parties fault. After the break up we still had occasional sex. He then got a girlfriend and moved in with her and her son a month after us having occasional sex. He said he can never see us being together again. That I ruin the relationship. I still love him and want to be with him. I beg him all the time to be back with him and tell him how much I love him.
I even tried no contact. How do I get over him when I still love him? Should I be his friend even though we both know I secretly want more? What should I do? Avoid begging anymore in the future as this paints a weak image of you where he might not feel as inclined to choose you over the perceived neediness and desperation you portray by begging.
If you have strong feelings for him and think that it isn't controllable, being friends right now isn't a good idea as you risk doing something reckless due to your emotions that pushes him even further away. This is my situation explained as simple as I can: I am 43, my ex husband is We have 3 kids all over the age of We were married for 22 years.
I left him in Septhad an emotional relationship with someone, went out, drank, partied and all this time I was being watched and had pictures taken I didn't deny anything.
My ex reached to me for 5 months for me to come back but I refused, I was in a bad place in my head and wasn't a very good person. He filed for divorce and we have been divorced 4 months now. Since February I have been begging him to give me another chance that I am a much better person, have asked for forgiveness and I truly feel that our relationship could be so much stronger That he is numb and very angry.
He has this "girl" friend that he has become very close to. He says she is just a good friend, when they get together they just talk to help each other out. I decided last night that I will not be contacting him for a long time now.
Unless of course it pertains to the kids. Although I know what I did broke his heart into pieces and although I know that what I did to our marriage caused the divorce, I know I can make him happy again.
I am not sure how to handle our situation and not push him away. I am beside myself. And very much heartbroken. No contact at this point would probably be appropriate for some time at least to let both parties clear their head. If you want to reach out to him down the road, avoid begging him to take you back, ease into things and show him with your actions the changes you've made and give him a reason to want the relationship back.
My ex broke up with me a week and half ago. He has started dating some one else. Give him some space for now, and focus on picking yourself up from the breakup, emotionally and mentally, especially with the pregnancy on the way. If you push too hard for him to come back right now, things may end up backfiring and he distances himself further away from you. Hi I was in a long term relationship with my boyfriend and we have children together.
I hated him and he knew it. I left him when he started seeking attention from other women. We were both in a bad way for a long time and I held on to so much resentment. We tried getting back together a few times but the resentment from the past caused fights and break ups.
I left him over 3 year ago. Over the past year he has been trying to win me back over but I kept pushing him away. Unfortunately he met someone new this past month and has started dating her. He told me he will always love me as the mother of his children but felt he needed to move on. He said this before he started dating this new woman but he had been chatting to her. Do I have any chance of getting back together with him? I did move on shortly after I broke up with him but it was a rebound and it hurt him a lot.
If the relationship was meaningful enough, which based on what you said, seems to be the case, he might come to the same realization as you after some time and decide to want to try things again. Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up last for more than 2 months already. We were in a 10yrs relationship. There were a lot of reasons for the breakup, he said we weren't growing in the relationship and that he couldn't see a future with me anymore.
He also said that he wasn't happy with our relationship anymore. I begged and tried to contact him during the first few months to get back to be and give our relationship another try but he's still firm with his decision that what we have is over already.
I traveled for 3 weeks last July to get my head off the breakup, before I left he was still affectionate and telling me that he still love and cares for me. He was even checking on me when i was traveling. But when I got home, I discovered that he's already dating this other girl.
We'd had a few fights about her before our breakup because they were calling each other at wee hours. This girl just broke up as well from her boyfriend a few weeks before dating my ex boyfriend. Now, my ex's sister told me that my ex already introduced this new girl to their family and the girl did the same to her family. My ex has gone cold and was telling everyone that he's happier now and that there's no chance in us getting back together anymore.
Is there really no chance here? I can't quite know if this new relationship is a rebound or serious. I've cut contact with him for 3 weeks now.
If he was together with you for 10 years, there's a good chance that the next relationship he jumps into would be a rebound. I would recommend spending this time to pick yourself up, and grow as well as a person in order to stand a better chance if you intend to win him back.
Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me after a 5 years relationship. Before the break up he was at the same time really passionate and caring, and other times very distant and angry. We lived together for 4 months. Than one day he said that he wasn't in love with me anymore, he cried a lot and I packed some of my stuff and went to my parents house for the weekend. After a few days he said that he wanted to break up. I moved back with my parents.
After 2 weeks we talked again. He was crying a lot, and said he was sorry for the way he treated me, but the day after he broke up with me he started to date a collegue and he said that he wanted to move to another country with her on january. I asked him why he wanted to move to another country since he never expressed the desire to do so, he replied that he wanted to run away from me and his family. He also said that he will forever feel guilty for the way he treated me.
He looked very depressed, and I know from mutual friends that he started to drink a lot and stay out at night until morning. He also seems to be very serious with this girl, doing a lot of things he used to do with me. Also at the end of the relationship he said that he lost attraction because we couldn't see eachother often due to different working hours. Do I have any chance at getting back together? Is it a rebound relationship or not? It may potentially be a rebound, especially since the expressed motive behind moving countries was to run away from you and his family.
As for chances, there does still seem to be a chance to reconcile since his actions are directly related to you at the moment, and he is very affected by the breakup as well. Hi everyone. My ex broke up with me one week and a half ago. He told me he still likes me and wanted to stay friends. It's just that he didn't see a future in it. He couldn't pinpoint what the problem is we had great sex and I'm always supportive of everything he does or wants to do.
He assured me there wasn't someone else and also that I didn't have to worry about him dating anytime soon. But after less than a week he's already going on dates!!!! I found this out yesterday after he reluctantly told me when I asked what his plans were for the evening since he kept refusing me. I basically made all the deadly mistakes. A lot of crying and ugly sobbing and being needy He hasn't responded to any of my messages since yesterday evening when I went to his house, broken down.
And when I went again this afternoon to suggest a walk he said "no, some other time. It was nice that you came to see me though". I now know after finding this site through Google that I need to start No Contact and realised that maybe our relationship partially didn't work because I lost my own identity.
I was his second girlfriend, his ex broke up with him because of his jealousy problems. He was never interested in actively going dating we started when I was in An open relationship, but even then he just didn't feel motivated to date girls I'm looking for support in all this.
Please let me know what you think of the situation and my chances. There's a chance that he got bored of the relationship over time and lost the spark, despite the positive aspects of it. Usually, these situations require a bit of time for the other party to realize that what they had was great and it was a mistake throwing it away. Hi I was seeing this guy from March to August, we were really intense, passionate, he was infatuated with me and we would talk all day everyday, we had everything in common, but he broke up with me in May bc he felt like we argued a bit to much and like he was putting in more effort than me.
I did a lot of mistakes like begging for him to stay and being a doormat during the breakup and after the breakup. We stayed in contact even after the break up in May until August, we were still flirty with each other but there was still no commitment and he was a bit hot and cold with me. We would speak to each other at least once a day until two weeks ago.
Two weeks ago he told me that he was being distant and a lot less flirty bc he decided he wanted to give this girl that has had a crush on him for a while a chance at being with him bear in mind he told me about this girl in May but still continued to be flirty, sexual and close to me even after he told me about her.
What is the best thing for me to do? It would depend entirely on what your goal is - to win him back or walk away. I would recommend going back to NC, but don't delete him off social media.
My husband of 11 years and I split up at the beginning of the month. I take full responsibility as I had an affair following my mum passing away and feeling unsupported by him but I made a bad choice. He asked to reconcile and I was still in a bad place. I have since realised what I massive mistake I made and tried to make amends. Do I have any chance? You don't have to do fully do no contact given the circumstances you're in, but avoid small talk and interaction with your ex with the exception of matters related to the children.
Given that the relationship was over such a long period, there is a chance that he still has feelings for you but may simply be going through a rebound right now. Follow the guidelines found in our articles on how to handle rebound relationships as well as no contact. I asked him why he was asking and he said he still cares about me despite everything. Well, if you feel that way, perhaps give it some space to see if he's sincere or not. If he's not sincere, he would probably stopping trying to contact you after awhile.
Hi My boyfriend and I broke upI followed the no contact rule for about a monthhe has been dating another girl for 3 months and we met after my no contact and I slept with him because he made promises to medid I make a huge mistake? What should I do now to make things in my favour? It would depend on how he is treating you now, after you've slept with him because he made promises to you that would determine whether it was a mistake.
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. I begged him but he refused so I stopped. After 2 months he came back begging but I was harsh towards him.
I then called him and apologized and also told him we are fine but he refused saying he has met his new girlfriend and she is giving him the peace he really wants. I want him back now and my friend got to talk to him, she said he is just beginning to love the girl and he told her that I can fight for him if I want. How do I do that?? Is there a real chance?
I know he loves me more than her. If that is the case, then perhaps you would have to convince and remind him why he loves you more than her. This could be through your actions of trying to win him back or trying to rekindle the flame once again with him. I am so nervous him and his girlfriend are going to be something big. I really love this man. Keep in mind that the focus during this period that you've stopped contact with him is the period you should be focusing on what went wrong with the relationship, and whether there were things that you could do to change about yourself in a positive manner, as well as to use this time to pick yourself up from the break up.
Follow the guidelines found here if you require further information about the concept of no contact. Hey, My boyfriend and I live together and been together for over 7 years. Do you think if he left for a different attraction, my chances are low? He may have left for a different attraction because of the grass in greener syndrome, which he may have started to feel after being together for so long that there are 'better' fish out there.
The fact that you were together with him for so long means you connected on an emotional level at the very least but physical attraction may have been lost over time, which is possibly also why he feels bad and the need to apologize.
Follow the guidelines found in this and our other articles as well on the steps and measures to winning him back. My ex and I have been together for 4 years and just broke up a little more than 1 week ago and we did not end in bad terms, despite being a mutual decision I felt like I was forced to break up with him, because I caught him lying to me and he was drifting away.
After the break up I found out that he was emotionally cheating on me with one of his overseas colleague they do meet frequently since he has to fly to her country quite often, but will not be as frequent moving forward 1 month prior separating we were having huge arguments then, about commitments and settling down issues.
The week before the break up, we are still acting like a normal couple and was assuring each other that we will work on our relationship, but after his overseas business trip to his female colleague country, where I found out he spent the weekend with her and some of his other colleagues.
I found out all these information from his mum that was when i found out he was lying and was talking to someone elsehe called me the next day of his return and we mutually broke up over the phone. I have stopped contacting him after the break up, cause I thought it was a good time for me to do some self-reflection on myself and our relationship - me trying to understand what went wrong.
I was motivated to contact him after having no contact for 2 weeks. However, I have recently spoken to his mum again for some advice his parents loves me a lotand she told me that he looked like he moved on not moaning at home, going out with his friends, texting his female colleague etc and has every intentions to fly over to his colleagues country just to see her.
Of course, this news upsets me because I thought I would still have a chance on reconciliation with him Right now, I am worried that I will not have any opportunity with him anymore. But neither do I understand whether his overseas colleague is a rebound since he started chatting with her before breaking up with him or something he is committed to?
Please advise on what I should do please? A rebound relationship could just as easily have started before the previous relationship ended since he probably built the connection with her to escape whatever negative emotions he felt in the relationship with you. This could have been built upon after the breakup because in order to avoid feeling empty and lost from the breakup, he continues to contact her instead which also occupies his mind and time from having to deal with the breakup.
Continue with NC and perhaps observe whether the likelihood of her being a rebound is there before you decide whether to move on or not. Hi, but if the coworker is located in another country away from him. Would you think it is possible for them to build a meaningful relationship together? Also, should I wait for him to contact me, or should I make the first move first?
I am afraid if I took awhile to contact him, he might get use to my lack of presence and the chances of me reconciliation with him would be low Please advise! My ex and I broke up a little more than 2 weeks ago. He said he didn't feel the same anymore and he can't do it anymore, he didn't wanna hurt me than he already was. I applied no cantact 10 days after we split and yesterday, 20 days after we broke up, i just discovered that is already with another girl.
My friend got really upset cos she thought he cheated and went to ask him about it but he answered no and he said he never cheated. He said he's just getting to know her and he just doing what he can to feel better. Do i still have a chance after all this? Ill be going to another country for a year and he promised to take care of my pet while im away so it isn't gonna be hard to see him again if I want to after the no contact period.
Should I follow the rule or should I just go ahead and see him? Regardless, you should be considering NC right now at least to sort your emotions out first, because contacting him while you're feeling hurt will only cause you to come across as desperate and needy and this would further ruin any chances you have at winning him back.
Pick that up, and then consider your options again. I broke up with my ex, mainly due to stupidly listening to my friends and not being strong enough to tell them they were wrong etc I hated my decision but was very lost and confused. I saw him a week later and we spent the weekend together with lots of tears but passion as well.
I said I just needed time, mainly because I was in counselling and wanted to talk everything through with her. I drove to his house Friday to sort things out and he got in my car, and cried, told me he loved me, was kissing me but he had to tell me something.
He again, went there anyway.
But if you're not convinced, and you want to know the top signs that he's in a You can't tell for certain if it's a rebound relationship if they've only been dating Your ex is overcompensating for the pain of your breakup by deciding to date the .
The first time he was alone without me or her he was texting me making sure I was okay, and again sending me music that we used to listen to. How do I get him back!?!? S the new girl is 19, and has recently broken up with her ex. Well, seeing her probably makes him feel better and eases the pain he feel regarding the breakup with you. It's likely that she may be a rebound considering how he started dating her almost immediately after, which is a sign of avoidance and not wanting to deal with the break up itself.
If you genuinely want to win him back and he's just starting to date someone else but still is positive contact with you, my suggestion would be to build up attraction and a sense of familiarity first instead and give him a reason to want to come back.
Since he does not want to address the issue now, then focus keeping the conversation positive so that his negative memory of the past may eventually be replaced. Hi there. I just would like to seek your opinion. I was dating this guy for 9 months and we share a great deep connection, and we both know it. However, he was never able to commit in a relationship due to his own personal issues and fears. We agreed to remain as more than friends and continued seeing each other frequently whenever he is back home from his business trips.
However, things started to become heavier due to my own insecurities and we had quite a fair number of arguments. We lived together for 6 weeks, and the relationship became very stressful for him as we had several moments of friction too. He told me that was when he started to lose his feelings for me and felt that having two strong personalities do not work out.
I know of my issues and thus, whenever I felt him withdrawing, I did not know how to give him space. After we flew back home from living together, he suddenly went cold and distant, which I did not know why. I did everything your article told me not to do. He contacted me a day after we came home and told me that he had slept with someone else, and told me that he wanted to end things. I reduced my texts and tried to move on.
However, a week later, he contacted me and told me that he is now dating the girl who is a complete different girl from his usual typethat he took an interest in a fling more than he should.
However, he still wants me to be his friend because he knows that he will not get to have another connection like we shared with anyone else. I began to become very needy and clingy again over the loaded texts.
A few days later, he told me that he is now attached and thus hopes I'll move on. Told me too that being with me helped him to realize that he needs a woman who is of a very submissive nature, and also because this present relationship feels lighthearted for him, that he does like her but he does not know if it will last.
However, he does not really know if he sees a future with her but he has chosen to be committed to her and decided to go with it and try to make it work even though he does see many red flags. To him, it is a different kind of happiness for him. Of course I was crushed, but the conversation we got to have about us really helped put things to a closure where he opened up to me about all the wonderful traits he saw in me but simply felt we were not compatible because he did not want me to change who I am.
He agreed too that he knew he would not be able to have such a connection again and would rather still have me as a friend than to completely lose me. Though I did share with him my opinion that I have issues too and one of it is learning to submit because of my insecurity and will be taking the time to sort myself out. We agreed to be friends but to take some time apart because 1 he has to respect his relationship's boundaries and 2 for things to cool off a little between us when emotions are no longer in the picture.
We also have an agreement that by certain age if we both are single, we would get married. He has since stopped responding to my texts and I have also ceased communication. And there is still a possibility for us to come back together to give relationship a real shot with the improved me? To be perfectly honest, it seems to me that he may be the type to run away whenever he encounters too much stress or conflict which was why the relationship ended.
You won't know now for sure but keep in mind the possibility of him having thrown convenient excuses and reasoning to make you feel better by saying that he feels connected with you but it's different, wants to be friends, both get married in the future if single at a certain age, etc. You'll probably only know if he's sincere about everything he said when you contact him again after some time has passed and you are more stable, depending on his response.
We still contact here and there. He claims that he is very happy with this current girl and that he has been having much difficulties wrapping his head around the emotions he is feeling, also saying that he does feels like he is falling for his girlfriend. He mentioned to me that it was because of me that helped him to let go. I am not sure if this is a rebound relationship, but I know we do have great potential together which he did agree too if I had learnt to give a man his space.
In this scenario, I am wondering if the methods that are stated in this article be of any chance at success? Or anyone has actually managed to attain success before. Perhaps if you visit our forum page, you'll be able to find some success stories regarding other people's relationships. There's always a chance at success but the circumstances would vary for everyone. It really depends on how the situation plays out and many of these aspects beside focusing on yourself aren't areas you have control over.
Hi Kevin and fellow broken hearts im so grateful for this article. I just have a question. I have initiated no contact period with my ex it seems he has moved on but i really want him back and for the right reasons. Im following Kevins tips about how to be a happier healthier version of yourself. I have even been on 2 dates but no more than a peck on the cheek with the dates because i actually really want my ex back.
My question is when is the perfect time to start texting him as i want to hit that sweet spot you speak of. I have quoted this section of your article below. It depends on the stage of no contact you're in, how long you've been broken up for, how the relationship ended and whether his new girlfriend is a rebound or not. If you said that he might have moved on, I assume that some time has passed. You could always try to contact him soon, but more as a friend and see how he responds to you.
If it's positive, you could continue the conversation to see where it leads but if it's a negative response, based on what you've said, there might be a chance that he has already moved on and in which case, you might want to consider doing the same.
If an opportunity presents itself in the future, you could always consider again if you still have feelings for him. I have been dating this guy on and off from to He has broken up with me before and would come back. I could see why he was saying that. The problem is he is dating a lady in another country, now. We had arguments about her as he would keep contact with her.
Now they communicate like a couple, and I live in the same house as my ex, and she is across the ocean. How can I get him back? Do you think I still have a chance? You still have a chance but it's a small one and provided you're patient enough to wait, because you'll have to wait for their relationship to end before you can try anything.
Continue improving yourself in the meantime so that when an opportunity presents itself in the future, you'll be a changed person in his eyes. My ex and I had a big fight in December We were together for 4 years. We were messing around until January In September ofwe started dating this girl, and she asked him out in January ofand he said yes.
He told me that he was never going to ask her out, and to wait for him For 4 months because he didnt know how it would turn out. We had sex the day that he told me. We didnt speak since then because I was upset. A mutual friend told me that he said he could never love his new girl, and not like he loved me.
And also that he still brings me up. And she can tell In His eyes that he still loves me. And that she doesn't think he really wants to be with her.
We are currently not on speaking terms, but if we spoke to each other, we would be okay with responding. We recently just took each other off of our block lists. Also, he came to my Hometown quite a few times over the summer just to see me and be with me. And he constantly called me at work to talk to me and left me voicemails telling me that he loves me, and call me to say good morning.
This was all over summerbefore he began dating her. And even after they were dating. Then you'll have to prove to him that he has no reason to fear getting hurt again because you've changed as a person which you should be doing at this timebut you would probably only get the chance to do so after he has ended things with her.
For now, you'll probably have to continue on with your life and focus on making positive changes to yourself. MY boyfriend and I were together 5 years and he broke up with me and told me he needed space. During this space period he would still text me and we would have friendly conversations.
I later found out he had been hooking up with a co worker I was cordial with during the last month of our relationship. He was trying to keep it secret and when I confronted he told me she met nothing and was an outlet.
He told me he wants to remain friends we have sex about 3 times a week and whenever he is not around his new beau he is texting me. I ask him for boundaries and what he wants from me and he just says "We don't know what the future will hold" I am still deeply in love with him but I don't know if sleeping with him is the best idea.
When he isn't around her he acts like we are still together but when he is around her I am chop liver. Is this new relationship he is in serious and should I move on and just leave him alone. Sleeping with him is definitely not the right thing to do if you want him back in your life as more than someone he turns to when bored or wants to hookup.
He could've been hooking up with her because he got bored of the relationship with you and lost feelings of passion. It's most likely that she will be a rebound for him, but you should not complicate things right now by getting involved as well. Instead, perhaps considering going into No Contact to provide some distance between the two of you, so that the breakup would actually hit him.
Hi, so my ex broke up with me very recently for another girl. However the circumstances are weird. They met up for the first time for a few days, when she went back to her country he broke up with me for her.
However he says he still loves me but loves her as well and says maybe in the future we can be something again. What do you advise me to do in order to win him back? It could be that he got bored of the relationship with you, and that this new girl provides novel excitement. However, because it is LDR, there's a high likelihood that it would not last since he probably didn't even get a chance to build up meaningful experiences with her before she left. I would suggest going into No Contact for now, and I suspect that he would begin texting you again once he realizes that this 'new' relationship doesn't actually have any meaning to it.
Hi, So I have been in a 3 year on and off again relationship. It is both our senior year of college, and out of no where he told me he lost feelings and interest for me. He said he doesn't want a relationship with anyone right now, and just wants to enjoy his last few months of college. However, I found out that hes been consecutively hooking up wit the same girl. I am nervous that he will catch feelings for her. What do you think? How do I get him to believe trying a relationship with me is worth it again?
How do I get him to catch feelings again? He may have ended things with you because he was bored with the relationship and wanted to explore his options out there, given that he is graduating soon. His hookups with this girl is evident of that, and cheating may be something you risk facing if you try to get back with him at this point.
However, if you still intend to get him back, you would probably have to figure out why he lost interest in the relationship with you attraction, communication, etc and try to work on those issues before you try to convince him to reconcile. I dated a guy for six months, we were never in an official relationship but I was so in love. I wasnt sure he wanted to commit and always thought he didnt felt the same way.
Until one day he told me he wanted to remain friends cause he was really interested in dating this other girl. My heart broke.
I don't think it's that guys don't want to deal with the breakup And when I say single, I don't mean single on a hookup rampage or single because he's seeing a girl Do you know how a man decides a woman is girlfriend or wife material?. According to the experts, if you just broke up with your ex and he's already If she was dating a guy that was too “soft” in the big picture, there's. My Ex is Already On Tinder Even Though We Just Broke Up . doesn't care if she's on Tinder, pornthipseastore.com or any other online dating site or app), she will feel On the other hand, if he's still the same jealous guy (e.g. he gets upset with her for.
I never told him how I felt but Ive really fallen for this guy. He started dating the girl and are now in relationship. However, we never lose contact, we started seeing each other again and things got messy. He cheated on his new girlfriend with me several times. He has made it clear through texts and even called me to tell me that he never wants anything to do wth me.
And that i should go back to my ex…i really love him so much and am afraid i have lost him forever. Please help. Because when i text him he will not text me back unless i make a joke.
So uhm my boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. We recently just broke up. I called it off for various reasons. My mum of course told me. How long should I feel miserable … I broke up w him because he honestly gets very angry when I text male Co workers or other male friends.
Idk I kinda wanna just change my number and never talk to him again. Please help me im so confused. Never do anything to its extreme actually this was suggestion i used to give to my friends cause it falls the same way both sides good and bad, well i ended up doing that, well she was different, amazing and had a personality like it was certainly mind blowing for me. Smells like victory in paradise for me hahahahahaa. What to do with this type of guy?
My boyfriend broke up with last November Unfriended me on Facebook and blocked me on whatsapp. On November 22, he unblocked me on whatsapp and sent me a message saying I could find a nice man easily because I am beautiful. And wished me good luck. I thanked him for everything. He tried to cal me last November 23 but was not able to answer it. November 24, he asked how I am.
Tried to call him but no answer. Same thing happened November I said why would I be looking for a new Ng or find a new bf? He said a nicer guy. What does this mean?
Please enlighten me. Thank you for writing this article. I was in a relationship for almost a year which ended abruptly. When someone leaves without really giving you an explanation it can be devastating.Why Is My Ex Contacting Me After Breakup, When They Are In A Rebound relationship? by Clay Andrews
I am really hurt just trying to feel better. I know time will help and that one day the feeling of wanting to cry when I think about what happened will go away. I have fallen for him after 3mnths… we met once when he came for his leave as he is posted in a remote area. I told him that I like him more than a friend. Really appreciate the effort u put into typing for ur readers ease of reading and understandings : But i do have a few unanswered question that I was wondering if u will be able to decode it for me.
I was the one who dump my ex for his selfish behaviors, I still love him though despite of all those selfish things he had did in the past. The next day right after i dump him he instantly changed his profile picture to a picture with him and one of his girl friend. He claimed her to be his gf as he told me to stop contacting him because she is important to him.
Is this considered as a rebound? Later on he said he wanted to meet me and just the two of us together spending time talking and he said he wants to hug me. But for now, farewell and take care. I told him the same and wished him the best. But why is he telling me? And also he blocked me few days ago because some guys were flirting with me and he brought up those guys as subject today when we were talking. Is there anyway to enlighten me? Sorry if its too long, and many thanks for taking the time to read through and answer : Cheers x.
What a load of croc. Poor apologetic load for grown up babies i guess. It gives women an opportunity to process it from a perspective that can clarify his actions… which is important, since post-breakup there are many women who are tragically suffering and feel an intense need to understand his actions so they themselves can move on. Hi Eric, i have been in a relationship with this guy for nearly four years.
But two months ago, he broke it off telling me that his mother does not want me because i come from a different tribe. I was so shocked!!! A few weeks later, he posted a picture of him and a certain girl on his whatsap. When i asked him to be honest with me, he told me he is in love with someone else and so i should move on. I am so hurting to the extend of contemplating suicide.
How could he do this to me? Did he really love me? I trusted him so much and gave him my heart. He hasnt communicated with me for the past two months and he seems to be so happy with his love. How can he just forget me within a second? I just want to die. Erick please help me. I got in a long-distance relationship with a guy who used to be my good friend, we spent one week together and then one month more on Skype.
I was behaving wrong towards him, I was so lonely and desperate to have love in my life that I wanted too much of his attention.
He said that was making him feel stressed, that after his previous relationships he wants to rest and tried to break up with me.
After that he stopped writing to me. He just cut me out without any talk or anything. We do have some little contact. We play the same online guild so we chat in a guild chat. If I write first he eagerly answers.
I never discuss our situation though. I once asked for help for my studies and he called me on Skype and helped out — in truth I just made this up to see and hear him again. But he behaves like there has never been anything between us. Not just break up — but the way he did it. I highly doubt he thought and thinks about my feelings at all…. I am completely broken, 2 weeks passed and I cry every day. But in truth I just want him back, I miss him immensly.
Coach Lee explains what you should do if your ex starts dating someone new during no contact and right away after the breakup. As I will explain going forward, your best bet, by far, is still to remain in no contact and that means not reaching. If you try to interfere or try to convince him to breakup, then you are only going Perhaps, he is really interested in his new girlfriend and he really wants his new. We just broke up and he's already online dating - If you are a middle-aged woman looking to have a good time dating man half your age, this article is for you.
My name is Mari. My story is a strange one. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 months but prior to use being together we have known each other for 18 years. He was my very first boyfriend and first love. We were together 4 years and was ripped from me and sent away. We both lived different lives and have kids of our own now. He really thinks I will hirt him. Am I just siking myself out hoping for him to be more open or just keep trying. For a while everything was OK we went to calforina together to let his dad ash go but when we got back and his mom left and move to gorgia.
I am over 45 and was seeing a man for 6 weeks that was pretty serious. He took me for dinners, bought me clothes and jewellery, gave me money, we did a lot of activities together in fitness, I helped him with his health as he has bad BP and diabetes, he was very ill when we met. He cant have sex for 2 yrs from these issues and was quite depressed. I got him off the BP med and hes taking vitamins and within 5 days his BP was perfect so were his sugars.
He works out every day hrs. He had no complaints about me at all. Sometimes he felt rotten. So I did not hear from him hes not a phone caller much he will call to come take me out. So I did not hear from him for 2 days and Friday morning I got a text over the dating site from him that he sent at am and I only received at pm that night he had to break it up due to his health and wished me luck!
He came on when I found this and I was very upset. He said he does not know if I am the man for him, and said he cares a lot for me. He was calling me sweety as we talked. Then he said could we stay friends. So I was so hurt and shocked. He never even called me to talk about it and all weekend has did not call me its now holiday Monday. I made a quick voicemail to him sat morning that since he did not care enough to call me he has no second chance.
He still did not call. At pm that night I had a beer and called he answered. He was out with his best friend having a few beers downtown. He joked he has to find a woman to dance with. Then he said hes heading to his car to go home and he would probably call me once there. He never did. He wanted me to move in with him. He was about to b uy me a bike this week. Mom is not well and he knows that Im upset about this and what he has done but he has not called, I am just so shocked and hurt.
He cant have sex so this is a huge upset for him…. My husband of 3. I think I hurt him — I was not paying as much attention to the things he needed as I thought I was. Do I have any chance of getting him back? But every time he stops by the new house to drop something off the vacuum, etc. Do I have any chance at all? If so, what do I do? Nope, even if you 2 are back together bc of the baby…exactly what happened with my exwife…I was just so sick of it all.
So I dated my ex for almost a year 10 monthsI feel like I opened my heart up to him and revealed my past of hurt to which he always told me he wasnt that type of guy. He was also the first to admit that he was in love with me. I always put him first, sadly, sometimes before my own family because I was in love. He then dumped me for reasons still unclear today. Honesty was very important to me. Then he says that he just wanted he freedom. I had heard that he was hanging out with this girl friend from work.
I knew about her before our break up and he was the type of guy who didnt want me to hqng out around any guys. So when he started talking to her he told me that I could talk to whoever I wanted and immediately I became suspicious. Well he got let go from his job 3 days after we break up and he continues to see this girl.
Updates his twitter profile to a picture of them two. He even retweets all sorts of love stuff. I confronted him about it and he would always say that it meant nothing. To believe him and what he tells me. I like an idiot chased him for a month. I did things I should have done like I bought him things and still slept with him, why? I was naive and believed it all because I was in love with him. He said we would be together in the future. Made what I believe to be fake promises. We still argued because he would act hot and cold with me.
One day he would be very flirtacious and would comfort me in my time of distress. The other day he would be a complete jerk to me. So after days of confusion I asked him to simply be friends.
Cause what i was getting was friends with benefits which was what I did not want. Last time I hung out with him were with my friends and again he acted flirty and touchy. So after that day I decided to take a break from him. Being around him was messing me up. The first 3 days he would just like my fb status which he rarely ever did when we were together. His step mom who loves me dearly informed me that he was posting on his twitter love things about a different girl than the one he was originally hanging out with.
She advised me to find out because it wasnt fair to me. I wanted to confront him about it. I felt like he owed me the truth because it would give me the closure I needed to move on. I called and left him a voicemail asking how he was.
Two hours later I called him again and he blocked me on his phone. I was soo hurt and angry. I went to his house and saw his mom. His mom told me that he did in fact have a new gf. That he went to a party had a threesome and ended up moving in with one of the girls who happened to be older than him and had money. I also found out that he had lead on the other girl from work as well. Idk if his mom was telling the truth or lying cause she is not a good person.
She always tried to make me feel less of a person. So in a way I feel like she got joy telling me this. She said it was my fault for disappearing and that all men do this.
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So from that day, I blocked him from everything social media and my phone. In the end, I feel like I needed to find out because I never got closure from him. What hurts the most is that I asked him to be honest with me even after the break up.
I told him that I didnt care if it hurt. I just wanted to know the truth. He didnt even tell me that he was in a new relationship. I had to find out for myself. He grew up in a group home so maybe thats why he is who he is.
Like he doesnt know how to love or care about others. He made me cry a lot even on my birthday. He criticized me for being vegetarian saying that he didnt meet me like that. Before the break up I was looking for an apartment for us. I was going to get a second job and put school on hold because I wanted to be with him.
I was thinking about us and I was willing to put my dreams on hold. He on the other hand did nothing to help us reach that dream of living together. He just wanted to smoke pot. He had a job but had no intention of going back to school or doing really anything. I was giving more than recieving. I thought I could motivate him and maybe even change him. I learned my lesson though. Well just last night i cried my eyes for a guy who told me we were right for eachother and he loved me we didnt date long but as soon as a bad situation came up.
He bailed out and cut me off. I simply said it was a test and it will make our relationship strong but he wasnt buying it. Even went as far as to tell me I was not really crying and that i was forcing myself to cry and Im like really. He said he changed his mind because i was being disrespectful and I was rude and this was just a bad dream and to forget about it. I mean i couldnt believe the words that he was saying.
He was a straight jerk and he was 10 yrs older than me Im 25 hes 35 everything about him was perfect until this happend. Eric, I wanted to thank you for the great articles that you write! I think the true closure comes from yourself sometimes, and just accepting the situation and moving on. Thanks again! So I am now faced with options of either continuing a friendship with him, parting ways completely no contactor some middle space of texting, talking and hanging out once in a while with him with no real depth….
Do I stop talking with him all together until my heart heals?? Sorry Eric Charles, but cutting someone off and not discussing the relationship issues shows how immature you and many people are these days. Most relationship problems can be resolved, but people today are too lazy and unwilling to work at them. Relationships and sex have become a dime a dozen. You have serious commitment and insecurity issues I gather. In fact based on your previous posts you sound extremely insecure and like you have very low self-esteem.
You need to be in therapy to work on your issues because you have some. However, I suspect you are not long-term relationship or marriage material anyhow based on the comments and stories you write. You come off as very selfish, self-absorbed and constantly in pursuit of this fantasy idea of happiness. It suggest that you are narcissistic individual who has the emotional maturity of a 12 year old. Instead of communicating you just run away like a kid.
Sorry, ladies and menbut any man or woman who acts like this is emotionally immature. They are not ready for a relationship and will never be marriage material. Avoid these people if you want a serious commitment that will be long-term and marriage.
And long-term means more than a year or 2. Hey eric I believe you are wrong. If you dated someone for a longer period of time you owe them closure.
Not endless discussuion but two or three follow up mails for example. Just ro make it easier for the dumpee.
It happened to me — i wrote a nice goodbye letter to my ex; not clingy or begging him to come back because i knew it was over. More have a nice life, was lovely to meet you. We also lived in different countries so there was no point in pursuing an already broken relationship. He never responded. Eventually not even saying goodbye when I flew back home. And that really hurted. Almost more than ending the relationship. Made me feel completely worthless. Questioning the whole relationship.
I have hopefully moved on now as i dont know his reasons, i did not do anything bad and one mistake or missed perception of him does not devalue me. But a simple courtuosy when appropriate would not kill your principles or pride and might made it easier for the other.
You might respond it is my ego talking which is definitly true, but is it right to crush someones ego just because you are in a position to do so? Well said. It is obviously his pattern using women. He was such fun and is hard to forget but there is deffo no future with such mrn. Letx move on. I was involved with a man for 2 years, first year just friends. He lives in my apt complex.
I ended up falling for him its the first time in years I felt that way. I am not from this city and dont have many close relations here. He at times would turn cold on me, I would question him then he would get upset and push meto friends,saying hes notready to fall in love he needs time. This man is 50 always been a bachelor no kids. Never lived with a woman. Last relationship was age 22 she left him after 5 years for another guy.
He had addiction issues for years but gave it all up. He has a bad arthritis and injects himself not sure if this is why he turns strange on me around the time he injects. We got along amazing the and did alot together but he would not commit to me but stated he was not with anyone, that if he met someone he liked more he would tell me.
So hes also an amateur golfer and lost his job 3 months ago this put a big upset in our relationship. Last time we were together for 2 days he said he wanted to buy 2 gold rings and claimed Im the best woman hes ever been with, he said this during romance. There was always high attraction with us.
The next day we were just sitting there and he said you have gained more than 10 lbs I cant believe it. This upset me as he always loves my look. Then an argument ensued he said i told you i dont want a relationship, I said we have been in one for 1 year.
He said I want to be alone. Then he said dont contact me for a week. He turned nasty I never saw him like this. So the next day he texted he would call me that night. He called after golf and told me his schedule for the coming week, asked how my day was. He said hed call after his tournament which ends tonight. He said he wants to see if he will miss me and if he can do good in golf without my coaching. He lives 6 doors down from me so imagine the hell I am in. I only have 2 other friends here.
He never mentioned our breakup OR the voicemail message before we would talk 1 hr about us not now. It was again about him mostly. I told him I have an interview for a great job he was happy.
We talked 25 mins. He does not seem as cold now he said hes 2nd in golf his final day is today and he will call me tonight to say how he made out.
I am not getting my hopes up. I had said in text I sure hope your not involved with someone new he never responded…. I had to go for emergency couselling as I am so upset he was like my family here. I am hurting right now. I was in an affair for 5 years. I met him and he was married with 2 young kids.
I am much older and it started as a friendship. I would listen to his problems, his unhappiness, how he was struggling financially. He depended on me, asking me never to leave him.
I noticed one time a year into our affair that he has constant text messages — like in 24 hours. I questioned it, he admitted he met a girl after a gig and she kept wanting to talk. I believed it. He made me feel special, and I got deeper in love with him. He finally left his wife, he started going on small trips here and there saying it was a singing gig but there were no photos etc.
I am very smart and can usually figure out a person, not this guy, he is the best con I have ever come across. I was stupid enough to continue the affair, seeing him when I could. I felt so amazing being with him, helping him, getting his career to a higher level. I bought all the lies because I was blinded. He told me his wife wanted his Facebook and not to write anything for a week … then posts photos in the middle east somewhere. The more I asked, the more he lied and covered up.
Soon after his divorce he said he just wanted to be friend but still wanted financial help from me. He still wanted to sleep with me. He would get mad if I asked questions and get more distant. The next day he disappears, 3 days later he posts a photo in Paris. My girlfriends show me photos this past week of him partying but not with one girl in particular.
How can he be so evil, a liar. I too am shocked and devastated although I saw it a long time ago. Please tell me what I should do — just erase him from my life? What about the 5 years of dedication I gave him? I have feeling and he stomped all over them … I risked my kids, my marriage and I am so unhappy with me life now, while he is enjoying the good life.
First off, shame on you for getting involved in an affair. Yes, I said it. You just allowed yourself to lose control. Secondly, that man is using you. Helping him financially and you are not his wife?? Are you insane?
Thirdly, you are not in love with him. This man is a loser. He has no respect for himself or other people. He lacks integrity, compassion and empathy as well. Are you kidding? Lastly are you seriously asking how can he be such a liar, evil and manipulative.
I wasn't entitled to feel this way — I broke up with him! After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to unfollow him It can make you start to question yourself: "If that's what he's into, am I like that?. My ex and I just broke up few months ago and now he's seeing . out my ex- boyfriend has started dating another girl a year after we broke up. Can't you wait until we've been broken up for a month? his bonafide girlfriend thinks he's out for a pint with his mates. .. Given that I was his OW, then his “ girlfriend” between online dates and securing the new victim, is it a.
You are willing engaging in an affair with a married man. Have you not grasped who you are as a person? You need to leave him alone immediately and get into therapy because you have some serious issues lad. Beth, I completely agree that being in an affair is wrong but, I am also aware that people make mistakes and have done things that they regret.
There is a major difference between giving people advice and making people feel like shit. As for the woman who calls herself damaged I would like to tell her that what she has been through does not have to define her as a person. She is a human being and she deserves to be respected. My only advice to her is to A. Not get into another affair, B. Remember that this man that she had an affair with does not deserve her and C.
Please try to figure things out with your husband especially since you have children. I can tell you that divorce aucks ass for kids a lot of the time. I would know I am a child of divorced parents. Whatever you do please have your kids best interest in mind. Hi Eric, I am in a long distance relationship. I broke up with my boyfriend last February then I found out through Facebook that he went on several dates with a girl who kept tagging him, announcing their dates.
That happened a month after we broke up. He eventually confirmed it. I was hurting but I told him I was happy he found someone near him and that I hope it works out well for him this time. A few weeks after that we decided to give us a chance again. I am in a relationship for 3 years then in a sudden he stop communicating with me…i am trying to call him and send msgs but then no reply…i dont the real score between us.
I just decided to break up after 6 years of being in a relationship with him. I asked him why? He said he was just attracted with her but then he realized that he really loved me.
To make it short, it took 6 months I gave him 2nd chance. After reading that message, I then finally decided to break up with him. He defended his self and said he never had any communication with the girl, that he was just trying to get some news about her. He told me, he thinks I dont trust him.
So I answered, I tried my best to trust you but you gave me reasons to doubt it. He also said he dont wanna lose me, that it hurts cause he loves me, and asking if we could atleast stay friends? I actually said being friends would be fine. I just need help cause right after the break up, he sent me some messages as if nothing really happened.
It took us years and he did everything for her in a month! I was so devastated cause I still love him! And Im not sure how to get him back cause he blocked me and they seem happy and inseperable now :. We really had a special bond, and we shared really a lot common interests.
And I was always there for him when he was happy or sad. We were talking about our future, and actually we always had something to talk about.
I hoped I will feel better after a month of separation. But I feel even worse, and I really want to get back with him. My husband of 15 yrs beautiful memories. He was married before with 2 teenage girls and then divorced. He has desserted me his 2nd wife now 8mths without consultation after i confronted him about a dating site.
This lady is nothing like me. I am a model for route 66 and am very attractive with a vgsoh and personality. This lady is small fat and forgive me quite ugly in her attitude and demeanour and sense of loose clothing.
She is the same age as me 60yrs and he is He met her on line 8mths ago and obviously a rebound.
But he rebounded to me. This lady is a grandmother from 70 miles away from where he is living in our orig home and has baggage and family of her own who stop with them some nights and 2 dogs.
He was never fond of animals esp in the home. Recently he has started sharing photos on facebook with my friends and some associates i have recently met on line. How does he know my associates names? And why after so long is he digging my nose in it. Ringing my friends and telling them about this beautiful young lady he has met. They tell him not beautiful and not young. Recently brought her to my church and sat were we always sat and received communion.
But he was later told not to come back. He does not look happy. I think he is having a breakdown.
We just broke up and hes dating
Very arrogant and totally ignores me. No communication now for 3mths. The lady he is with who is a widow with family must have money to compensate his bills. I still love him can someone out there please help. I was a devoted caring loving jovial wife. People are shocked. We have no children but had a lovely quiet life with plenty hols. This lady has baggage. He stays pt with her then she stays pt with him Do you think he will stick this relationship.
He looks stressed out. I think they are also drinking a lot. She is an expensive drinker. He was never a big drinker like myself. How does he stick this?? Please help me. I still love him. What if. He dating his ex girlfriend? It is possible to say that is a rebound or its becoming a serious one? My ex bf and i were together for almost 4 years. After he started a new school he was very busy. A week ago i saw a chat between him and a girl and they were flirting.
I got so mad, he told me his feelings were gone. He said he was still there for me wheb i needed him. But instead of answering my messages, he ignored me and blocked me on everything. But that girl who was flirting with him contacted me and said i had to back off and she was calling me bad things and that i needed help.
A few days ago my friend told me they were together… My heart broke and was in so much pain.
I hope he will come back, i miss him so much. My bf and I went out for almost 4 yrs, but I found out he was sexting with another girl and I broke it off. He went to therapy for over a month, while writing me letters that he loved me and wanted me back. During that time I did not speak to him, and the times I did I was probably very mean. After like 6 wks I felt less upset, so I decided to talk and take him back. He then changed everything. He told me he did not want to be my bf, did not want to date anyone, and did not want to be in a relationship.
The problem is that he does not text me, tries to spend time with me, or even says hi to me at the cafeteria. Is he trying to build the relationship again, or is he just trying to buy time to make up his mind on who to choose. One of my friends wants to let the other girl know that my ex asked me to be exclusive, because he feels that she does not know the truth.
Any advice is appreciated. I dated a doctor who was divorced slowly we started talking and I fell in love with him. We decided to get married and due to some family reasons he broke up with me and started dating new girl I am still in love with him and not able to move on and forget him.
Me and my X. We been separated for a long time as far as i know i never used any rebound,Before i get into new relationship but still end up unhappiness its not because of me its because of my current relationship…. I thought of X when one of our mutual friend ask me and she mention my X name… and because they were friends in facebook she mention me that my X is in relationship now and the girl also has same necklace i used to have when we used to be in relationship.
Not only that they have a baby girl which name after me, im confused and rethink and looked back? Any ideas? This article is obviously not my case, but it is whatever. I was the one he rebounded with, because his Ex he was with for 5 years before he dated me.
When we first broke up, I was convinced he was The One because he matched almost every single bullet point I wanted in a partner. Knowing that there is someone else in this world that makes him happier is extremely painful and frustrating. Yeah, yeah, I am a polyamourous, bisexual male who dated another male, but who cares?
All relationships work the same regardless of sexuality or beliefs in monogamy. No matter what happens, I know that my ex will always be in my heart, because I truly loved him. Mine broke up with me and was talking to a so called friend before that. So now my son and I are moving out. Shoving his new girl in my face when he can orthe ex too…not sure if I would really want him back when his ex wife is involved with any relationship he has.
I missed his birthday and valentines day. I did something that I would never do. I snapped chatted him and told I need closure so he talked to me in person. My ex and I broke up 6 months ago after being together for 2 years. When I asked him about her he was very defensive and told me it was all BS. He asked me not to send him any more messages with this type of drama. Before this we were starting to talk a little more every time and I even thought we were going to fix it.
I truly thought he cared about me. He always made sure I landed safely from my business trips, he made sure I was home safely. I felt he was really into me.
Good luck. He thinks we are wanting 2 different things. And that was it. He has not explained anything else to me. I love him and I think he cared too, but I am not sure. Any advice? Me and my boyfriend were together for 2 and a half years before he very suddenly eneded it 2 months ago. They work close to eachother so often meet up for drinks after work And this is why I got a gut feeling. Today he snapchatted a photo of a photo of them two from when they were young, a photo ive never seen before and felt sick to my stomach as I almost felt like it confirmed my gut feeling hes probably at her house when they found it not sure if im being paranoid but obviously feeling extremely hurt and lost right now.
So my ex girlfreind of 3. Is now in a new relationship. She wrote me a letter telling me she is setting me free. After reading it I gave it back to her saying that I did not accept it.
We have been split for about 10 months now. But because of where we work. I see her at least once every 2 weeks sometimes more. Her face lights up when sees me and always ask me for a hug and they are pretty great.
She also told me one night over coffee that she was in a new relationship. She cried so much when she told me this. But she also told me how she missed so many things about me. And misses making love to me. In the past 2 weeks we have seen each other almost every couple days. We have hugged immensely. She has even lied on top of me kissing me and then things start getting hot.
To the point that it gets stopped because she says she does not want me to think she is that type of cheating woman. She has never stopped telling me she loved me. The last 2 weeKS feels like the intensity of our love for each other has grown even deeper. She was in an emotional state when we were together as she ended her last relationship and we were together right after.
Her ex has made it extremely hard on her and so goes the emotional roller coaster. She has also told me that the other guy sure doesn t kiss like me. These are things I don t want to here.
She has told me that she does not love him. And also that she is working on herself. Because of this break up. We both have learned lots and have grown to a different level of inner peace. The break up was actually a good thing. When she set me free. I never got mad. I was calm and told her that she needed to do what she needed to be happy. Her response to mine was that. She never thought I d say anything like that.
She has also told me how she sees me in a very different light in a very big way. As we both have changed for the better. Anyways,my mind heart and soul are like in limbo.