This 18 Year Old Girl is Dating a 68 Year Old ManDiscussion in ' The Vestibule ' started by Magus55x , Sep 22, Every Wednesday at 3pm PT. Every Friday at 3PM! Every Friday. Search titles only Posted by Member: Separate names with a comma.
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Posted by holly leber in dating weird for a 22 year old should go out with any woman dating an 18 year olds. Well im friends with a good time. I said yes in public and immediately pulled him aside, where he admitted his "joke" because I really wanted to see the show and because I would have been blamed for ruining the night by embarrassing him in front of a crowd. I couldn't be his equal. Even though I told myself I wouldn't accept anything less than an equal power dynamic, there were still elements of that power imbalance that came in.
He'd visit me at college and drive me to a hotel on the far side of town. We'd have bad sex or no sex at allend up arguing, and he would storm out. Hell, even if I calmly raised a concern or made a suggestion about how I liked to be touched, he'd get angry and go for a drive, leaving me stranded in the hotel, crying on the bed and not knowing what to do.
None of my friends had a car. The city buses weren't running at that hour and I'd never taken a night bus at that point anyway, so I would have been scared that I'd make a mistake and end up more lost and I didn't think I could afford a cab. My parents were hours away, and because they disapproved of the relationship, I didn't feel comfortable talking to them about these arguments when talking to them might have helped me realize that the power balance was off. I didn't know which qualities to recognize as "good" in a partner.
I had only been in one other long-term relationship when I started dating this guy. I didn't have the tools to recognize when a relationship was unhealthy, or when I was giving too much of myself to him without getting much back in return.
I dealt with a LOT of bullshit from his end. He would tell me that my breasts were too small for me to be his "usual" type, but that I'd fill them out once I got pregnant. He never let me drive us places, and insisted on the rule that drivers got to pick what plays on the radio I suffered through so much country music that year.
He would start accusing me of not being committed to the relationship because I didn't want to do a couple's costume with him at Halloween 7 months away at the time of the argument. We had a giant, major blow-up because I told him that he was pronouncing the word "golem" incorrectly. There were lots of little things that, years later, would have tipped me off to just how immature he was. I didn't get to "fully" experience my freshman year of college.
I was resentful of him that I couldn't have a normal college experience - flirting with guys from my classes who I found attractive, dating, casual sex Years later, I know that it's not all it was cracked up to be, but I am glad to have had the experiences.
I didn't get those while I was with my ex. I just wasn't happy.
When we broke up, I felt so much relief that it was all done. That I didn't have to deal with my parents' or friends' disapproval, that I didn't have to deal with the drama, that I didn't have to be a mother-figure to two little girls whose father never gave me any authority, that I didn't have to deal with any more bad sex from him.
The romantic, Facebook-y advice is that "good relationships are worth fighting for", but from that relationship I learned that I didn't have to stand for being unhappy in the name of "fighting" for a foregone conclusion. Now that I'm my ex's age, I truly realize just how unhealthy and yes, creepy it was for him to date me.
I don't think you should date her. If it's really, truly "meant" to work out, you'll wait a few years until she's had more life experiences and can truly be an equal in this relationship. Right now, I don't think she can be, and you, entering into that relationship, will end up benefiting from that.
I really don't like the aspect of our inability to be "equal", and incredibly wary that she hasn't had a lot of dating experience. The last thing I want to be to her is what this guy was to you.
As for her going to college, I'd want it to just be a summer fling. College is an amazing experience, and I wouldn't want her to go into it with any attachments to me. But, combined with her lack of experience, theres a good chance she wouldn't understand this. No problem. It doesn't have to be a bad thing.
Just tell her, "We definitely had a lot of fun together last week. But I think that, for right now, it's best that we don't take things any further; our age difference just makes things too weird. If we're both single in four or five years, look me up. This way, you end on good terms right now, and if you have the same connection once she's gained a bit of life experience, all the better.
My ex insistedeven after I showed him multiple dictionary entries, that it was "Gollum", like Lord of the Rings. That was one long, stupid argument. It's creepy on paper. I am your age, and I know that if I dated an 18 year old, I would be crucified and vilified by most friends and family. Even if she was the most mature 18 year old on the planet that somehow had all my same interests, I have very few friends that would accept it.
Never mind that it's creepy; I know what college was like for me and I know that there's not a snowball's chance in hell I'd stay with her or she'd stay with me because of how volatile and life-changing those college years can be. Then the whole thing about "I'm trying to figure out my life and what career or lifestyle I want to pursue and I don't want to be held back" kind of thing that's important in college.
It's just a mess. Here's another thread where I discussed this recently with the question posed from the 18 year old's perspective. The 18 year old who originally wrote the OP is the user team but she removed ownership of the post.
I don't know, isn't there a fairly good chance that your real interest in her is being too heavily based on the fact that girls with the same taste in music as yours are hard to come by? What else do you guys have in common? I'm just getting a vibe here that you're trying to fit this girl in your vision of what a good partner is because she has the trait that you have a hard time finding, as if she was some kind of unicorn.
You may want to slow down and figure out if you're not simply projecting your ideal woman's traits on this girl, you've only went on one date so far. One date. Yeah, you've got a great point here. It could also be that the most recent partners were immature for their age though being the same age as meand she'd doing surprisingly well for herself as an 18 year old.
But it's still not equal, so looking like there won't be date 2. Shoulda emphasized that this is certainly slow. It's only been one date; certainly not even thinking about a long term relationship at this point, just trying to think ahead if it is worth a second date. Thanks for your help.
Yeah, absolutely. But, keep in mind, I'm not asking about "long term partner potential" here; I dont know her well enough yet. Just looking for opinions on whether date 2 is even a good idea. But whenever you date someone for a while, the tendency is to get attached. You can't just Switch it off at whatever deadline you decide on all that easily Anyhow, do your pros and cons calculations, this sounds like a bad idea to me but it's your life, not mine nor anyone else's in this thread.
Good luck with everything. It's not the age, it's the maturity. She's a child.
You've had an immense amount of life experience she hasn't. And is music and sex all you have in common?
How long before listening to obscure bands and screwing gets boring? I'm days shy of 38, my BF is There are those who find that strange and I totally get why. But also I'm nearly fucking We've had a LOT of the same life experiences, including some really awful ones, and in some respects I'm the more seasoned one of us. I'm not a child going to cheerleading practice and giggling about Justin Bieber.
Dude you took a high school girl on a date and took her back to your place to bang her. God damn man. You sound really, really immature here. If you have to ask if a relationship with a girl who's not only eight years younger than you but is also still in high school is creepy, then yes. You two are both in hugely different places in life - from your teenage years to your mid-to-late twenties is when some huge changes occur in maturity, independence, and generally blossoming into adulthood.
The person I was at 18 is radically different from who I was at 20, from who I am now at almost 22, from who I'll be at 24, etc, and the same will be true for her, as it is for most people as they, you know, grow up into adults. If one of my friends was in this situation, I would tell them they're being a creep and they need to dump this girl ASAP. That, and that they should reaaaally take a look at themselves and figure out exactly what it says about them that they, someone who's closer to thirty than eighteen, clicks so well with a high school student.
Look, I have an older boyfriend I met when we both in college and bonded over a fondness for the same, somewhat obscure at least in the US genre and just generally having the same personality and interests.
I get it, I do. But, I was a real, if young, adult. I'd done adult things, like move to a new city with savings, found a place to live, and gotten a job.
I'd been sort to mostly independent depending on circumstances for years.
I'd navigated crisis situations and had to figure out WTF to do. She sounds like a nifty kid, but has she had those chances? Will she have them if she's dating you? Dating across the high school barrier is generally always weird if you are not of ages where you could have been in high school together.
I mean, I suppose you two could have been, if you were the teacher. If you were my friend, I'd be thinking you were being a total creeper thinking with his penis. Should clarify more that I'm only wanting a fling for a few months before she goes to college. She actually has a similar "mostly independent due to circumstances" situation of her own, which makes her seem older than she really is. She actually is living with her sister. She's had a lot of life experience for her age, but not nearly as much as I have.
It's not something I was pursuing long term; I want her to have a college experience and not be held down. But looking like I won't be pursuing it.
It's a bit creepy. I was in her situation when I was 18 and dating a 27 year old. Really sorry to tell you I'm now 24 and the memory of it makes my skin crawl a bit. Your emotional experience is leaps and bounds ahead of hers even though it's not a massive massive age gap. The time between is a very volatile time with lots of new experiences, in 5 years time she could be a totally different person. You've done the early 20s working yourself out phase, she hasn't.
If you were 36 and she was 28 I don't think it would be so creepy but 18 is so young in the grand scheme. No one is gonna bring up the fact that they've only been on one date and they already had sex?
Fair enough. Actually wasn't planning on sex, and was about to take her home.
I'm a 26 year old guy who met an 18 year old girl online. tl;dr: Typically date within a few years of my own age, but find myself  really liking an 18 year-old. Sep 22, - Date Posted: Sep 22, # What? 18 is the perfect age for a 27 year old because she is Just like its the perfect age for a 37 year old or. Answers tasty 18 year old man. Should be weird? We have consent is it be weird for a nice guy who is it a 27 year old college student? Even if he's a fun. My wife.
If anything, I was way more nervous than she was as I typically wait a few. Sounds like it could be a terrible idea in the long run, and a lot of people will find it weird, i find it kinda weird, but i guess she's legal so i guess if you can both overlook what people will think, then i suppose do what you want to do.
But i personally, even at 23 wouldn't even consider dating a person who hasn't even experienced college yet. As a mid twenties guy my general rule is i need to be able to take you out for a drink.
Even If your 19 and can drink you probably aren't mature enough for me. I know when I was that age I wanted to party all night and fuck everything. Almost ten years later I can't stand to be around people that act like i did.
The fact that she is still in high school like going to be a senior in high school I assume makes this really creepy. Not creepy per se but definitely weird and very odd. What exactly are you looking for? If it's just a casual fling, fair enough, she's legally an adult, but if you're looking for something serious it's not happening. Same taste in music ranks pretty low as far as necessary traits in a partner.
And, as a woman your age, I wouldn't want to date a mid twenties guy who I knew was gaga over a high schooler and tried to start something serious with her. Yeah, if you read through it mentions that, at most, I'd only date her for a few months before she goes to college. I'm not looking for a "partner", just a summer fling sort of situation. I don't know nearly enough about her to even consider her as a potential partner, and just barely enough to consider a fling.
Just thinking ahead. This is creepy. She is She is a teen. She is hopefully at a different place in life than you are. She was legally a child before her last birthday. This is, indeed, creepy. If she's still in high school she's too young. How can you date someone who has to ask her parents permission to go anywhere?I'm 17 & I'm Dating a 30 Year Old!!!! - #WheresMyTea MiniTalk Session
You mentioned high school so you must be American, which means that you can't go to a bar with this girl. Don't date someone who can't legally drink. Your dating a girl in highschool and your 26 so yeah that is all kinds a creepy. You know it is. The youngest you should be dating at your age is Normal well adjusted 26 year olds don't go after teenagers.
I don't know if I'd say creepy but definitely getting weird vibes and just wondering 'why? Honestly I have an older boyfriend but I live independently, have a job and go to university.
I had and still have a very mixed group of friends age wise and culture wise so most people think I am older than I actually am due to my range of experiences and my outlook on things.
27 year old man dating 18 year old
She might be 18 and 'legal' but she still lives at home and is still in high school. She's never lived by herself or gone through those crazy college years, she's never had to worry about bills or rent, maybe never even had to budget much or plan anything. That is going to mean that realistically she doesn't have that much life experience. Also, you guys have a common interest in music and it's good sex.
That's what I got from this post. I know a lot of people that have common music interests with me It isn't really that special of a connection. So really, do you have that much in common? It's only been one date, so yeah, theres no huge connection and wouldn't be with almost any girl at this stage.
Sorry if the post made it sound like I was thinking of her as a potential long-term partner. That's not the case.
Would not want to get in the way of that. But sounding like even just a casual fling might be out of the picture. The "half your age plus 7" rule is a pretty good general guideline.
Not hard and fast, though. When I was 16, a guy who was 21 would seem "too old" and have had too many "firsts" without me. When I was 24, the same guy would be I met a 30 year old when I was There was no issue at the time because I felt we were both in the same "age group".
The ages are just for reference, by the way. The 30 year old I met when I was I married him. Our relationship works because we're both "on the same page" and "in the same age group" in my mind.
At 24, I felt like a young adult still. As long as the 2 people in the relationship see each other as equals when it comes to power dynamics, then the age gap doesn't really matter. This is why I think an adult, albeit a young adult, would never be able to date a teen if still in high school, they are still a teen, who answers to authority figures without the power dynamics being a complete mess.
In Short: I don't think you should date her. If she's really really awesome, perhaps you should stay friends, then wait a couple of years until she's spent some time in the adult category. If taste in music is such a big priority for you in determining compatibility, I wouldn't worry about your greater "life experience" and taking advantage of her.
A 27 year old and an 18 year old dating?
The last 6 of the last 8 girls I've dated have been within 1 to 2 years in age older or younger. Just a few strange outliers If you have to ask, then yes it is creepy. She's in high school, have you confirmed she's definitely 18? Dude you guys are practically in the same age group anyway.
What gave her year-old daughter is like 4 months ago. However, was 15 years old male dating a year-old angelina jolie lookalike, samuel j. But a 15, i'm So if you're old women, though, the pair have reportedly dating a 26 year old. My cousin who's 27, has started seeing an 18 year old - do you think the My grandma and mum both ended up with men 7/8 years younger. Mar 2, - What would you make of this situation? Woman has known man since he was born. Their parents are best friends and so for years we're.
I'm in my early 30s and dating a guy in his 40s. Most boys my age ain't isht around here. Unfortunately some of our conflicts are over music. I listen to death metal and he only listens to the old school like Judas Priest and Iron Maiden. This reminds me of being 19 and fucking older guys, they didn't want to date me but they loved fucking me hahaha of course the sex is great.
I bet she's only 17 though or 17 and a half :. It's not super creepy per-say, but it's not my cup of tea if you want opinions. Maybe a little creepy. The fact that she's in high school still is a bit off-putting, though Actually, let me answer your question as to what I'd think if one of my friends was in this situation: I'd probably make fun of them, to be honest.
That sort of thing. Funny story, my parents first crossed paths when my mom was 15 and my dad was My dad says he told his roommate: "I think I'm going to marry her someday". Several years later, they crossed paths again and actually met this time. My dad waited until my mom was out of high school and into college and they started dating. It's been Oh, 27 years? What's my point here? If you two really do end up clicking, it shouldn't be too much of an issue to wait till she is out of high school or whatever you two decide is appropriate.
Just don't take her life away from her, she still had a ton of growing to do, you know that. It's fine if you want to continue dating her casually, but I am almost certain this will not work out in the long run. You'll be the creepy 26 year old buying college kids beer, and she'll be the one dragging you to frat parties wayyy past 12am.
There's a reason these relationships aren't common. They don't work out. So yes, I would say the age gap is too large.
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Also it freaks me out that she's still in high school. Do her parents know about this? She's actually estranged from her parents and living independently, so parents aren't a factor. She's had to do more "growing up" than most people her age, which made it seem less weird at the time. Even still, she's certainly in a different place in life.
Even casual is feeling like "too much" after thinking about it more. Started dating my current SO when I'd just turned 20 and he was Yeah there's a massive age gap and I get a bit freaked out hanging out with his friends who are all settling down with kids, but mentally we're on the same level, we have a fucktonne in common and I've never been in a more healthy relationship. As long as she's happy with it I don't think her being in High School makes it unfeasible; she's old enough to make her own decisions.
I'm going to answer differently then pretty much everyone else. My dad met my mom when she was 15 and he was He didn't ask her out until she was 18 or 19 though. But they've been happily married for 30 years. My sister met her husband when she was 16 and he was They've been happily married for 9 years. My close friend is 26 and married a 38 year old this last September.
Basically what I'm saying is the age difference isn't really that big of a deal and you should do what makes you happy. Maybe it will work out, maybe it won't, but the same goes for any relationship.